Author: Lala
•Sunday, May 30, 2010
First date:

Carl called me on Thursday after we met and invited me to come over his place for some food on Saturday. I went to Baltimore with my best friend's family to visit some relatives that day and had to tell Carl that I will not be able to make it. We agreed to meet on Sunday, March 1, 2009, instead. We had some food, talked for a while and decided to go to the LDS (Mormon) Temple Visitor's Center in DC to watch a Mormon orchestra concert. He met my best friend Christine that rainy night. I did have fun talking and spending time with him. Before parting our ways, he said that we should do that again sometime and I agreed that we should. We had our second date 3 days later followed by many more.

Cherry Blossom Festival:

It was in April of 2009 when we went to see my first ever Cherry Blossom Festival in DC. It was beautiful!! It was a little windy and hundreds of petals were flying in the air. There were a lot of people and it was such a wonderful view! We both had so much fun playing some simple and silly games. It was not long when we decided to head back to his apartment to watch the General Conference a little later that afternoon. We were sitting by each other and I noticed that he was staring at my hands for the longest time and felt that he might be thinking of holding my hand. He eventually did..finally :), but it was a little uncomfortable because my arm was twisted a little bit that I had to reposition my arm and comfortably hold his hand for who knows how long..:)

I'm sorry I will be late:

"I'm sorry I will be late". I wore that phrase out  when we were going out on dates. I didn't like being late as much as waiting for somebody who is late on appointments. For some unavoidable reasons though, it seemed that something important always came up when I would go out on a date with Carl. I don't remember how many times I had him waiting sometimes for over an hour on our dates but I remembered well how impressive his patience and understanding were in waiting. It seemed that no matter how late I was, he still greeted me with a smile on his face and always made sure that we had fun on our dates.

While on a plane going to Illinois to visit his family on Memorial weekend of 2009, I spilled a glass of cold water all over our pants and I was impressed that that did not upset him at all. The only thing we were worried about is how to convince his Dad who was picking us up from the airport that he did not pee on his pants. Our pants were dried out before we landed, which was a good thing.

"Things that I liked and didn't like about Carl" List:

After several dates, I felt that I wasn't sure if I still wanted to continue the relationship with Carl. My best friend told me that it might be too early to make a decision and that I should give it a little more time. I decided that it would be nice to cook for him to thank him for all the planning, effort, and time he gave me, then I could tell him that that was the end of our story. My best friend thought that I was crazy but she was kind enough to help me pick up the ingredients for the recipe she taught me to prepare.

Making the decision was hard. I did a lot of thinking and praying. He was a wonderful man and I had fun on our dates but I thought that we had so many differences and there are a lot of things that I didn't like about him. It will not work, I thought. The day before I cooked for him, the engineer in me kicked in and I felt impressed to make a list of things that I liked and didn't like about Carl, and analyze the data before making any decision. I was surprised to see when I finally finished the list that the things that I liked about him are way more than those that I didn't. I shared the list to my best friend and she suggested that I remove some of the items in the "I didn't like" list because they seemed unreasonable. One of those was that "He does not mark his scriptures".

I had fun cooking chili and chicken alfredo with him. Talking to him later that night about the things that worry me and his own worries made me feel a lot better and gave me peace and confidence to continue with the relationship. I was convinced that he was worth knowing more and that I was just being so critical about him. I am so glad I did listen to my best friend's advice—Carl is a good catch and I feel lucky and blessed having him in my life.
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On June 5, 2010 at 5:04 PM , Rebecca Reid said...

You know, I used to think he was weird for not marking his scriptures, but then I got a new set of scriptures and I just couldn't stand it: every time I read them, I want to read them fresh and clean. I don't mark my scriptures any more. I take notes in a notebook instead.

I'd suggest never making a "like vs not like" list like that're in for the long haul now!! And you'll see more and more silly things that may annoy you as well as the things you love...but, um, you've probably already figured that out. lol